Our sources
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Sources cited on this site
21 records, each one checked as at 2026-09-14. A page that would not load for us is not linked at all: we name the book in text instead, and say why the link is missing.
- An attachment perspective on psychopathology (World Psychiatry) (2012)Mario Mikulincer & Phillip R. Shaver — World Psychiatry (WPA/Wiley); open access via PubMed Central (PMC3266769)
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — and Keep — Love (2010 (Tarcher/Penguin trade paperback 2012))Amir Levine, M.D. & Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A. — Tarcher (Penguin Random House)
- Attachment (Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1) (1969 (2nd ed. 1983))John Bowlby — Basic Books (Hachette Book Group)
- Attachment styles among young adults: A test of a four-category model (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology) (1991)Kim Bartholomew & Leonard M. Horowitz — American Psychological Association / PubMed record (PMID 1920064)
- Come as You Are: the bestselling guide to the new science that will transform your sex life (2015 (Scribe edition; US revised & updated edition 2021))Emily Nagoski, PhD — Scribe Publications (UK/AU publisher of the book)
- Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (2008)Dr. Sue Johnson — Little Brown Spark (Hachette Book Group)
- Infant–mother attachment (American Psychologist) (1979)Mary D. Salter Ainsworth — American Psychological Association / PubMed record (PMID 517843)
- Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: behavior, physiology, and health (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology) (1992)John M. Gottman & Robert W. Levenson — American Psychological Association / PubMed record (PMID 1403613)
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (2006 (HarperCollins India paperback edition))Esther Perel — HarperCollins (page is the HarperCollins India edition)
- Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships (1992 (HarperCollins India edition listed as 1993))John Gray, PhD — HarperCollins (page is the HarperCollins India edition)
- Models: Attract Women Through Honesty (2011 (current edition sold via the author's own imprint))Mark Manson — Self-published (Infinity Squared Media LLC) — author's official book page
- No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life (2003 (Running Press ed., pub. date on page 2002-12-16))Robert A. Glover, PhD — Running Press (Hachette Book Group)
- Physiological and affective predictors of change in relationship satisfaction (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology) (1985)Robert W. Levenson & John M. Gottman — American Psychological Association / PubMed record (PMID 4020618)
- Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (2020)Jessica Fern — Thornapple Press (formerly Thorntree Press)
- Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective (Current Directions in Psychological Science), summarised in APS Observer 'Empirical Evidence Is My Love Language' (2024)Emily A. Impett, Haeyoung Gideon Park & Amy Muise (article); APS Observer summary by C. Nathan DeWall & David G. Myers — Association for Psychological Science (Observer); underlying article published by SAGE for APS, DOI 10.1177/09637214231217663
- Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology) (1987)Cindy Hazan & Phillip R. Shaver — American Psychological Association / PubMed record (PMID 3572722)
- Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself (2021)Nedra Glover Tawwab — TarcherPerigee (Penguin Random House)
- The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (1992 (new edition 2015))Gary Chapman, PhD — Northfield Publishing / Moody Publishers (official 5lovelanguages.com book page)
- The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Pattern of Intimate Relationships (1985)Harriet G. Lerner, PhD — HarperCollins Publishers UK
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (revised edition) (1999 (rev. ed. 2015))John M. Gottman & Nan Silver — Harmony (Penguin Random House)
- Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (2011 (2nd ed. 2024))Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT — New Harbinger Publications
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